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“ But I was so accustomed to rejection that somebody actually once said yes and I was fear-struck and like "Are you totally out your mind?! What is wrong with you? You have to say no!" I was speechless, didn't know what to do next and left. ”

tracktorNPRFriday, January 16, 2015 6:48 AM


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“ You need the expansion: the affirmation therapy game. ”

PurpleWizard NPRFriday, January 16, 2015 9:40 AM

NPR2015-01-17T20:04:32.000Z

This segment of the show explores how a man decided to conquer his fear of rejection by getting rejected every day — on purpose.

The evolution of Jason Comely, a freelance IT guy from Cambridge, Ontario, began one sad night several years ago.

"That Friday evening that I was in my one-bedroom apartment trying to be busy," Comely says. "But really, I knew that I was avoiding things."

See, nine months earlier, Jason's wife had left him.

"She ... found someone that was taller than I was — had more money than I had. ... So, yeah."

And since then, Jason had really withdrawn from life. He didn't go out, and he avoided talking to people, especially women.

But that Friday, he realized that this approach was taking a toll.

"I asked myself, afraid of what? I thought, I'm afraid of rejection."

- Jason Comely

"I had nowhere to go, and no one to hang out with," Comely says. "And so I just broke down and started crying." He realized that he was afraid. "I asked myself, afraid of what?

"I thought, I'm afraid of rejection."

Which got him thinking about the Spetsnaz, an elite Russian military unit with a really intense training regime.

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