“ Very interesting. As a foster parent, I am obsessed with the science of bonding and how to give my foster son the advantage of attachment that he was not given from his birth mother. ”
“ "Men don't spend a lot of time telling women how to be women"? Really! Notice how all of advertising argues against that concept. Mostly created by men. Also all religious strictures on how women should behave. Proscribed by men. History until about 50 years ago was the almost total domination and subjugation of women by men i.e. telling/forcing women how to be. Plus you need to recognize a joke when you read one. ”
Because a lot of things do change, of course, but for new mothers, some of the starkest differences are also the most intimate ones—the emotional changes. Which, it turns out, are also largely neurological.
Even before a woman gives birth, pregnancy tinkers with the very structure of her brain, several neurologists told me. After centuries of observing behavioral changes in new mothers, scientists are only recently beginning to definitively link the way a woman acts with what's happening in her prefrontal cortex, midbrain, parietal lobes, and elsewhere. Gray matter becomes more concentrated. Activity increases in regions that control empathy, anxiety, and social interaction. On the most basic level, these changes, prompted by a flood of hormones during pregnancy and in the postpartum period, help attract a new mother to her baby. In other words, those maternal feelings of overwhelming love, fierce protectiveness, and constant worry begin with reactions in the brain.Read more...